We flew back from Utah on Monday, October 1st and must’ve cannonballed back into work. I don’t have much of what we did the first couple weeks of October recorded on my calendar and we don’t have many pictures, which means we probably mostly just worked a lot. I even made a note on the first day of General Conference (Saturday the 6th) that we worked on our laptops all day with Conference on in the background and Maisy toddling around doing what toddlers do. Alas, there are times and seasons for everything.
On Wednesday the 10th, Nate flew to Boston and stayed until Thursday the 18th to propose his dissertation (a big deal). Basically you propose to do x, y, and z for your dissertation, then your dissertation committee approves your proposal, meaning they agree that if you do what you say you’re going to do – and you do it well enough – then they’ll approve you to graduate with a PhD whenever that happens. Nate was still hopeful that would happen for him in the spring/early summer of 2013. He snapped this pic from the airplane that trip:
While Nate was gone, I worked and hung out with Maisy, we had a company quarterly activity (fajitas) at my parents’ house, I squeezed in a few outings with girlfriends (some with Maisy and some after she was in bed), and Maisy turned 11 months old on the 17th. On Saturday the 20th, we must’ve weighed her at home because I have in my phone app that she weighed 20.5 lbs. Her hair was getting longer and staying curly, and she kept on cracking us up with her ever-developing personality:
The first evening Nate was back, he was a good sport to babysit with me so our good friends could go to a concert for the wife’s birthday. Nate is always unselfish in that way, and I can’t recall one instance in our marriage when I’ve needed him to help me with something like that and he’s let me down. Not only is he a good sport when he’s helping out but he’s good company, too, and makes the most of whatever time we have to spend together no matter what we’re doing. That’s especially a blessing when one or both of you are busy more than a fair share of the time with work.
On Saturday the 20th, we did a little driving around some neighborhoods in South Austin. We were still months away from knowing where we’d end up, but that didn’t stop us from exploring some of what we wanted and didn’t want in our future house and neighborhood, including the possibility of that neighborhood being in Austin.
Laney and Sheppard were in town for the weekend, which was great as always. I love when the family is together. Unfortunately I succumbed to the flu on Sunday the 21st and quarantined myself away from anymore snuggling with baby Sheppy. It took me days to fully recover from that flu, which was the pits because the last week and a half of October were pretty demanding work days. Looking back on the fall, I can see a period of a few rather unpleasant months when I longed for more balance in my life. Nate was in the thick of dissertation work, and the weight of job and moving decisions seemed heavy and constant in our life and marriage. I reflected often on how being an owner of a company sometimes feels more like your company owns you, and I knew I needed to figure out how to make a change happen – for Maisy, for Nate, and for myself. Thankfully after pushing through another few months and a handful of projects that had been knocking (read: beating) on my work door, I was able to take things down several notches. I’m so grateful to my mom for all her willing and loving help with Maisy – I never could’ve done it all without her.
On Wednesday the 24th, we made it to our nephew Andrew’s t-ball game and have a few photos from a nice evening with the Steeds:
On Saturday the 27th, we dressed up for Halloween and went to our church congregation’s “Trunk or Treat” party. Here’s Maisy and Tara before the party:
Maisy was a ladybug, I was a flower, and Nate was a gardener. We only took one picture outside the party, but we dressed Maisy up again the week of Halloween so Nate could take some more photos.
Our Maisy lovebug and her dimple were a joy in October, and her genuine excitement about being dressed up for Halloween made the holiday for us.